Adventures in Parenting, Learning to Let Go

While my 4 kiddos can definitely wear this Mama out, they bring such joy into my life. Each day is an adventure, and I've said it before and I'll say it again, I do believe they teach me more about life than I teach them!  Read more >>


With our toddlers and infant son, all it takes is some Mama love, hugs and kisses to make everything all better. With our tween...sadly those days are fleeting, or in all honesty just gone.

Tween is going through some things right now that I have no control over. None. A hug, kiss nor a band aid will help. It is becoming more and more obvious to me she is really growing up and has to face some things on her own. Find a way to make her own peace and move forward.

I admit, in this particular situation I have stepped in (and became more emotional than I intended, coming across very foolish more times than I care to admit, sigh), to no avail. It is out of my hands, out of my control. All I can do is be there for her, listen to her, and let her know she is not alone. While she has to find her own way, I will continue to be there for her. I just can't make it better for her. Breaks my heart, but I guess this is where I have to learn to really let go. As her mom, of course I do not like to see her hurt. I want to make everything all better. Life just doesn't work that way. Since she is my first child, this is a huge lesson for me. Learning to let go. Allowing her to find her own way through this. I know she will. She has enough of her mama in her to move forward, learn the lessons with grace and to keep on keepin' on. I am finally letting go.

Oh, and to my family and friends...it's ok, you can say "I told you so". I know I can be stubborn. But you know, I think I have some of my Dad in me. You just have to do all you can, and when you reach a point where you feel you have done all you can do, you move on. That's where I am now. I have done all I can (sometimes with grace, and sometimes not), and I feel I can finally let this go. In the end, as my hubby says, our tween is going to be just fine, she has us.

She has a large support system, and for that I am grateful. Maybe I have worried too much (imagine that) about this situation, made too much of it. That's ok. I'm a Mom and I do the best I can, learn as I go.

Another life lesson learned.

Adventures in parenting, at times it really does teach me a lot of life lessons.